A few days ago I shared my feelings at the start of my three-year-old daughter's school. At that time I was stunned, sad and without any desire to separate myself from her, but I knew that I would support my daughter and would instill security to start this new stage of your life with confidence.
And after a week of adaptation I can say that my little has assimilated the routines a thousand wonders, he loves school and, despite never having gone to daycare, has adapted phenomenally. I tell you how our experience has been with the beginning of the college of elders.
And without prior "socialization," everything has gone smoothly.
A few days before the start of the school year we had a meeting with the teachers of the Infant cycle - in which my daughter began - to give us some guidelines that would help children to face the start of school in a positive way.
These types of indications made by experts always come great, because they provide information, relevant data and professional experience to help children to get along with their new stage.
But I also believe that we must listen to our own instinct and follow the guidelines that our hearts indicate. Because, who knows a child better than his own mother? Who, if not her, can anticipate a reaction or know what is going on in his head at any given time?During these three years of aging at home It has been many times that I have heard comments from people doubting that my daughter's adaptation to school was going to be good.
"Not having gone to daycare, I'm sure he has a hard time at school"
"She is so in love that she won't want to separate from you."
"Poor thing, what a loss the first day of school is going to be!"
Something similar I lived with my oldest son (who also did not go to nursery school), with the difference that he was smaller than his sister when he started school, which being January is one of the oldest in his class. And it seems that the older a child is, the more the fact that he is very attached to mom is judged.
But if I stressed something in my post about the beginning of the school year, I was convinced that my daughter would adapt phenomenally because she goes to her character and, because despite not having "gone to daycare to socialize" she is a tremendously open and empathetic girl who enjoys playing games with other classmates and group activities like nobody else.
The days before the start of the course, and without it being a recurring theme, we made some comment about how fun the school was, taking advantage, for example, of a cartoon scene that gave rise to it, a story or conversations with his older brother - who was looking forward to it.
Besides, the I involved in everything related to the purchase of clothes and school supplies, such as his backpack, sneakers or baby, which he wanted to personalize with the face of his favorite animated character.
The first day of school was very happy from my hand and his older brother's, with his backpack on his back and eager to meet his new friends and teachers. We say goodbye with a big hug and in my words I transmitted security, confidence and much love.
At all times I wanted her to notice that she was with her in this new stage that was beginning and that it was not an exclusive subject of her, but of the whole family. The verbal and nonverbal language, and the multiple kisses and hugs we gave each other made him feel special, greater and very sure of the step he was about to take.
And so it has been throughout the adaptation week. Not a single tear or doubt, very relaxed and with the energy and happiness overflowed both at the entrance and at the exit of class. And I am not going to deny that, although as a mother I was certain that everything was going to go well, I feel very happy that it was.
There are many testimonies that have come to me from other families who have not yet gone to daycare, their children have lived a equally good adaptation process than my girl's
Therefore, from my experience and from that of many other moms, I tell you that no matter how much listen to external comments that call into question your family decision to raise at home the first years, or even make you doubt at some point, the reality is that it does not have to be that way.
If, on the contrary, the process of adapting your children is not going as well as you would have liked, I leave you some tips that can help you in these first days. Remember the importance of infuse security with your actions and words and, above all, and as Armando told us from his experience, listen to your heart.
I wish that all children who have started school for the first time these days have a fabulous start to the course!
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