It doesn't matter where we look, school, television, movies, blogs, etc. Wherever you look, there will always be someone who tells you what is right or wrong, what you should do as a mother or as a father, because what matters is how others see you, how your family is in their eyes, it is the tyranny of the perfect family.
Does anyone feel identified with the type family shown to us in society? Because we find two types of family, that perfect family, with children who never bother, always well dressed and of course, who almost do not need to tell them anything because they are as if they guess what their parents want before they even say it and On the other hand, we have the families, usually large, of children who shout, jump, bother and never know how to behave with parents who are saturated and making them understand that they should never have had children. Yes, that's what they sell, or you're from one or the other and who wants to be in hell?
You have to be a perfect father or mother to be happy
Surely we all have in mind those perfect families that sit at breakfast time on white tables with a full tableware, have you noticed that in those houses all the dishes and glasses belong to the same tableware? There is that glass of recycled cocoa cream of the Angry Birds, or that decorated plate of a certain brand of cereals, the cup of "the best father", or "mom is the best", the tablecloths do not have a stain , not to mention that they don't have a wrinkle either, that nobody is sleepy and gets up with a smile from ear to ear. I get up, I get to the kitchen and I see a table like that and I'm sure I wake up from the scare (because it is clear that this house is not mine)
If you are a father, you are supposed to like all aspects of fatherhood and if not, why are you? Well no, there are things about fatherhood that you don't have to like, it's not a matter of everything being perfect and pink, fatherhood has its pink, black, red, green moments, etc. because it is the set that will ultimately compensate.
If you want to be happy do what I say
From the moment you become parents everyone around you becomes an expert in pediatrics which of course has many better ideas than you, because the ideas of others always work, the strange thing is that with your children they do not. It is that they are rare, right?
Well, no, there is no single way to do things right And what works for your children (what work will have cost you to find the trick) does not have to work with the children of others.
Parents, workers, husbands, leisure monitors, personal assistant cooks.
You cannot be a perfect father or mother if you do not work outside the home and pick up the children, take them to one or two extracurricular classes while you buy photographs of each of the things your children do, you arrive home, you prepare dinner , bath, homework, stories, upload the images to a social network, prepare the costume for the party of the child and a cake that exceeds the previous blueberry that took the mother of another girl last week.
At what moment has this of paternity become a competition? Since when, to be happy with my family, must I be the best father or mother in school? This is no competition, here there is no prize at the end, in fact the prize is given to you at the beginning, they are your children, do not forget it.
They sell us that happiness is in the products they sell, in resort vacations, that to be a good mother or father you have to give them this or that product and compete against this is very complicated. Our mission is to teach our children to be happy by valuing the here and now, a smile, a caress, to enjoy being children, because after all They will only be children once.
Enjoy your children, but also your partner, the family as a whole, give you time for yourself from time to time because no matter that everything is perfect, it is enough that it is to our liking. Remember that you are the best.
This is my last entry as editor of Babies and More. Thank you very much to all of you who have read some of my entries, whether you liked it or not, to those who have commented, even to those who have not had time to do so, to all a million thanks. It has been a pleasure.
