Not all, obviously, but the comments that got the most votes on Facebook the video that we are going to show you are those who directly attacked a four-year-old girl, by name Tessa, for behaving inappropriately according to the norms established by adults.
The blame? From a well-known experiment, manipulated to get children to reach the limit, probably in order to get more viewers, generate more controversy and even provoke criticism against the protagonists. All at the expense of some children who have not asked to appear there.
What video am I talking about?
This video is part of the Movistar Plus documentary program "The secret life of children", which intends to replicate the version that was made for Channel 4, which was awarded as 'Best Popular Factual Program' at the 2016 Broadcast Awards.
The objective of the video series is curious: see how children behave when their parents or other adults are not, how they interact with each other, how they develop their personality and gradually understand the social and emotional world around them.
The problem is that it is one thing to see 4 and 5 year olds share space and time with no other intention than to observe them, and another very different one is to provoke conflicting situations to see how they react.
The role of the impartial observer
And what is wrong with seeing what children do in a moment of conflict? It depends. It depends on the conflict, it depends on how it is published later, and it depends on who the viewer is.
Many research to study child behavior requires that such conflicts happen, but studies have to go through an ethical committee that determines whether or not that can be done with children. In addition, these studies are done to be observed by expert researchers, and in case they are made public, the names are not revealed to safeguard the identity of the children (and depending on the images, they even pixelate).
When I saw it, I positioned myself there, in the role of "impartial observer", and the truth is that I found it a very curious video from that point of view, because you can see how all children react. However, it brings nothing new to my view: they are children doing children's things. So when you start doing an empathy exercise with them, you immediately realize that something is wrong. Here there is no pixelated one and not only the names of the children are revealed, but on top of that you think about them. Tessa, Sure, It is the worst stop.
But, it is that it touches the machine!
Of course he touches her. They are 4 and 5 years old. The impulse test is an experiment in which several children are left alone with some jelly beans (completely alone, as it is done with children separately), after an investigator tells them that if you want you can eat one, but what if they wait for me to come back, they can eat two.
In that experiment the children eat candy yes or yes, and the interesting thing is to see if they are able to wait, knowing that this wait has an even greater reward than if they do not.
This false impulse test, on the other hand, is done with a group of children who are only told that they cannot touch it, and they put a broken machine on them. It is not necessary to be too smart to know that they will touch the machine yes or yes.
In other words: the candy test is interesting because with a simple test without major consequences, conclusions can be obtained. However, in this case, it occurred to some twisted mind that the consequence of touching the candy machine was an absolute misfortune in the form of candies everywhere.
A misfortune that ends up affecting all children in different ways. Some have a terrible time (the child who hides crying saying 'I can not look' generates many questions), others try to solve the problem, others take the opportunity to have a party and eat candy, others ...
And people are fattened with Tessa
Movistar decided to share the video on his Facebook page and has been more than 22 million views. To see a little what the opinion of the people, I quote below the comments that have more 'Like':
I dislike Tessa, she is always the most disobedient and gandal.
That Tessa ... the problem of people today is to think that children should not be tried to modify or educate because "they are children." The girl is disobedient, manipulative, and a liar. Children will not be children forever, if you have a child at home, in practice, you have a future adult, you cannot let a child be a bad child. Bad children can only be bad adults.
In the video the uncle says: "He has a great feeling of guilt because he is believed to have broken the machine." NO, sorry. She feels guilty because she has touched the machine and the result betrays her. That is why he asks the rest of the children to eat them. So there is no evidence that he has touched it. The girl is NOT silly, much less sensitive to breaking the rules, but to receive the punishment for having broken them.
Super bad, did the girl behave badly and burn her and give her a kiss? And apart he lied, because they make them spoiled, and put the excuse of "is that they are small".
She is the same girl who steals a sandwich in the other video ... she is envious, selfish, disobedient, pretentious and this is her parents' fault! Because she has not been taught to be the opposite, apart from the guilt she feels is because her disobedience effectively gives her away. (...)
Telita the education that this girl should be receiving ... in another video steals the Sandwich from another child, here disobeys, sends others to pick her up, blames something that is a lie to another child ...
Luckily, many have realized the harmfulness of the matter
People are attacking parents for the education of the girl, and openly reviewing her behavior. Tessa is already known throughout Spain and other Latin-speaking countries, and to know what damage this may have in the future. I say this because the Spanish Constitution says that "1. The right to honor, personal and family privacy and the image itself is guaranteed."And, honestly, it doesn't seem so in any of the cases. I repeat that those have not chosen to appear in such a public experiment and so poorly designed.
But there are many people who have already positioned themselves against it, and to balance the balance I also share their opinions:
In my opinion there is no justification for doing this type of experiments with children, since the only thing that is taken out is to make them have a really bad time and adults take us some kind of sensations and analysis. It is really fatal for me to use children's sensitivity for this.
Poor girl is stressed by having thrown the candy, when adults arrive it was good as they talked to her quietly, to calm down but to my point of view I miss adding to the dynamics that are carrying a consequence of their act For example something like that "well ... we already know that you feel guilty about what happened, the machine had a fault for something we asked you not to touch it, but you did not obey it is important to follow the instructions to avoid such situations. However already You cannot go back and the sweets are lying on the floor, now it is your responsibility to gather them in agreement !!? ... and let her gather them and observe what the group does if they are solidary to help pick them up or leave her alone.
I am ashamed of what I am reading. It seems that you do not realize that she is a 3-year-old girl who is beginning to become aware of what is wrong and what is right. She has been curious, she has not stopped to think about the consequences of her impulsiveness, perhaps she thought that nothing would happen, that she would not break the machine or that only a candy would come out of anything ... It is clear how distressed she is when she sees the consequences of what he has done. As it crashes because her little head is not prepared even for the possible options to solve the problem she faces. She feels guilty for what has happened and I am sure that if they gave her the opportunity she would never have touched the machine. We have all been children and we have done things without thinking about what would happen next, especially in the tempting thing that it is for the mind of such a small child to do something that is supposedly forbidden. Tell me if any of you have not done such children? Do not? Well, they do not believe that your mother did not tell you that you would not eat one more candy and when she has turned around you have taken it… come on! Q here it seems that you are all modelers. Your children are the most educated, formal and obedient children in the world. Children are children and they have to make a mistake in order to learn. She has been the first for more risky if it would have taken longer, we would see the same as another. I am ashamed that you accuse a 3-year-old girl of being bad, and that you can already see how she will be when she grows up ... you really have to be more humble than we all have failures. There are children who find it very difficult to control their impulsiveness.
I repeat: what if only one candy had come out?
This was the logical experiment, although I still think that this program has little illustrative and little educational: you put the machine on, tell them not to touch it and wait.
You approach and pretend to touch it. Tessa approaches, turns the lever, drops a candy and eats it. Another tells him that he shouldn't have done that while a fourth child does the same thing, several times, to get several candies. He decides to spread the loot with his new friends. They approach to see who gets more, and in five minutes they are all, or almost all, chewing sweets next to the machine.
Conclusion if it had been like that? One that They are young children who still do not know how to control their impulses, because they have not yet developed the ability to think about all the possible consequences of their actions. Two that blind obedience is almost impossible to achieve if there is no argument that gives weight to the ban: "Do not touch the machine, because it is broken and candy will fall everywhere." Three the power of the group is very strong, and when there are several who are "stuck in garlic" it is easier to fall into temptation. And four, although surely there are many more, than humans are curious beings by nature, and just tell us that something is prohibited so we want to know what happens if we do. And if you are four years old and they put a candy machine in front of you, white and in the bottle.
PS: Tessa is, in my opinion, impulsive, but brave and very skilled. Shortly after you start integrating an education based on positive values you will have a lot of gain in life. It seems to me a diamond in the rough.
