Today, talking about adoption is becoming more common and we often know very emotional stories of families who have increased their love and warmth at home with the arrival of a new member. But in reference to this topic, it is extremely rare to see the other side of adoption: the feeling of the birth mother when separating from her child.
Now, a woman who gave her son up for adoption, has shared the video she recorded for him, where he explains her reasons and that makes us understand a little more what they live by saying goodbye to their babies.
As a mother, I find it impossible to think of a life without my daughter. She is part of me and I dare to say that I could not live without seeing her for a single day or without being by my side. From this perspective, I think that those women who give their babies up for adoption have incredible strength and a true love of mother, because in many cases, one of the reasons for giving it up for adoption, is to give them the opportunity to have a better life.
A mom from Utah, United States named Hannah Mongie, has posted a video that has gone viral, in which He talks to his baby and explains why he gave it up for adoption and wants to make something very clear: how much he loves him.
The video, posted on the Love What Matters page, is accompanied by the following message:
This is my son, Tagg, whom I gave up for adoption in March 2016. This video was created so he could see and know that this decision was made based solely on love for him. He will never think that I 'abandoned' him or that I didn't want him. He will always know that I loved him more than anyone in this world.
I hope that everyone who sees it will be able to acquire a new perspective on what the biological mother lives when she gives her baby up for adoption. This is the FAR AWAY from a heartless act. Show the definition of love. To love someone so much is to give up your happiness for them. Many people asked me about the possibility of seeing him again in the future ... This is an OPEN adoption. I have the opportunity to see him all the time, thanks to his wonderful mom.
In the video, Hannah begins by saying the date and mentioning that she is about to give her baby up for adoption and that at that moment he is still 100% of her. It tells him that she wants him to know how much she loves him and that he knows the reasons why he decided to give it up for adoption.
With much pain and sadness, she continues to tell her the story of how she met her dad and how excited they were when they learned they were expecting a baby. However, Hannah's partner died two days after she first heard the baby's heartbeat.
She decided after a few weeks to give her baby up for adoption, and began the search for a family that was perfect for her baby. Finally he found a family he fell in love with and seemed ideal for raising his baby, and as time went by, she and the adoptive mother, named Emily, became such good friends, that even Hannah helped them prepare what would be Tagg's room when she went to live with her new family.
During her pregnancy, Hannah says she had a hard time with everything that happened and that she was looking forward to Tagg being born and being able to spend two whole days with him before giving it up for adoption. She repeats that he made that decision based on his love and that he knew she couldn't give him what he needed.
Hannah tells Tagg that her new mom Emily already loves him and can't wait to meet him, that she is one of the best people she has ever met and that she will fall in love with him when she sees him. The type of adoption Hannah chose is that of the Open adoption, which will allow you to see your child and keep in touch with him.
No doubt Hannah's video it helps us to understand in a closer way what biological mothers live, feel and spend that for some reason they make the difficult decision to give their children up for adoption, and admire those women, who, as Hannah says, do so based on their love for their children.
